How to Choose the Right Pressure for Your Massage: A Guide for Clients
When it comes to getting a massage, one of the most important choices you’ll make is deciding how much pressure you want. Whether you're new to massage therapy or a seasoned regular, selecting the right pressure can make the difference between walking out relaxed and rejuvenated or sore and dissatisfied. But with terms like “light,” “medium,” and “deep tissue” floating around, it’s not always clear what’s right for you.
Here’s a simple guide to help you understand what each pressure level means and how to choose what works best for your body and goals.
Light Pressure: Relaxation and Stress Relief
What it feels like: Gentle, soothing strokes with minimal muscle manipulation.
Best for:
First-time massage clients
People with high sensitivity or fibromyalgia
Those looking to de-stress and relax
Pregnant clients (with proper prenatal massage techniques)
Why choose it: Light pressure massages increase circulation, calm the nervous system, and are ideal when you want a nurturing, meditative experience. It’s not designed to target muscle tension or knots, it's more about calming the body and mind.
Medium Pressure: A Balanced Approach
What it feels like: Firm enough to work into the muscle layers, but not so intense that it causes discomfort.
Best for:
Most clients who want a bit of everything
People with mild to moderate tension
Those who enjoy therapeutic work without intense pressure
Why choose it: Medium pressure is the most commonly requested level for a reason. It helps relieve tension, promotes muscle health, and still feels relaxing. It’s a good middle ground if you’re unsure of your preference.
Deep Pressure: Targeting Chronic Tension
What it feels like: Slow, deep strokes that apply firm pressure to specific muscles and connective tissue.
Best for:
Athletes or people with physically demanding jobs
Chronic tension or pain (e.g., neck, shoulders, lower back)
Clients familiar with massage and who know their body can tolerate it
Why choose it: Deep pressure can break up adhesions ("knots") and scar tissue, improving mobility and reducing long-standing muscle tightness. It can be intense - but it should never feel painful.
Pro tip: Deep tissue doesn’t mean hard pressure everywhere it’s about working with depth, not force. Communication is key.
Tips for Deciding the Right Pressure for You
Talk to your therapist. Let them know your goals - are you here to relax, or do you want specific muscle work? They can help guide you.
Start light, adjust as needed. You can always ask for more pressure once your body has warmed up.
Listen to your body. Discomfort during massage is okay if it's tolerable and helps release tension - but sharp pain is a no-go.
Try different styles. Swedish, deep tissue, trigger point, or sports massage all apply pressure differently. Exploring can help you discover your preference.
Be honest about injuries or sensitivities. The therapist can adjust their techniques accordingly.
There’s no “one-size-fits-all” when it comes to massage pressure. What feels great for one person might be overwhelming or underwhelming for another. Your ideal pressure depends on your comfort level, physical condition, and the goals of your session. Don’t be afraid to speak up if your therapist’s goal is to help you feel your best. We even made it easy for you here at A Better Body by having a page just on our therapists and their descriptions of each of their style, history, and little more about themselves CLICK HERE to check it out!
Remember: A massage should feel therapeutic, not torturous. Communicate, experiment, and trust the process. Your body will thank you!
